My widower puts his kids and his old life first. What should I do?

A viewer writes: I am dating a widower with a 16-year-old and 26-year-old children. I am divorced with 3 minors. On my weekends without children, my boyfriend (widower) is not willing to have a date night and rather hang out with his kids. He expects me to hang out with his kids all weekend and he gets upset if I want to do something else. I asked for two date nights a month, which doesn’t really happen. We have to squeeze in alone time during work hours or when his kids are busy with other activities. Am I asking too much to have two nights alone without kids? Also, he wants to get serious. I keep talking about a new life with new traditions. He seems to want to just continue his life he has with his wife that past. He gets upset if I point it out. How do I start a new life with him if he really wants his old life back?

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